The successful pursuit, attainment and maintenance of community in the lives of individuals with a disability (and their families) is a major focus of Commonwealth and State governments, many Disability Services and above all, individuals themselves. The vision and accompanying passion is present, yet there appears to be little evidence that matches the vision. This brief paper wishes to share a belief that a major contributing factor to our limited success may rest in our failure to either ask of others and, even more importantly, to be ask prepared.